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Explore Your Goals

Let's see if this treatment can help you reach your goals.

Let's see how IBCT for Relationship Distress may be helpful to you. Below is a list of common treatment goals of Veterans who've tried this treatment. Review the goals and select the ones you may have for yourself. This process will help you better understand exactly how IBCT can help your relationship. At the end, you'll be presented with a summary of the goals you selected, which you'll be able to email to yourself. If you choose to get treatment, bring these goals with you to help you get started.

In the list below, select "Yes" next to each goal that may apply to you.

I want to feel more satisfied in my relationship.

This is a perfect goal for IBCT. Treatment begins by helping you and your partner understand factors that make you feel less satisfied with your relationship. Then you'll develop goals specific to your relationship that will guide treatment. During treatment, you and your partner will work to develop understanding and skills to improve different aspects of your relationship so you feel more satisfied. Research shows that couples that participate in IBCT usually report being more satisfied with their relationships.

I want my partner and I to feel closer to one another.

Great! A key aspect of IBCT is helping partners come to understand each other in a deeper way, which leads to more closeness and greater acceptance of each other. Treatment often also focuses on how to bring the good back into relationships to increase emotional connection.

I want to better understand the key factors that contribute to problems in my relationship.

This is an excellent goal for IBCT. In fact, IBCT is based on addressing underlying factors that lead to couple distress. The first four sessions of treatment are spent developing a summary of how each partner's personality, life experiences, current stressors, and patterns of interaction affect the relationship and problems partners experience. This summary is then shared with the couple. Many couples report that it is eye opening and quite helpful to see their relationship in this new light.

I want to argue less with my partner.

This is a common goal of couples who seek treatment. An important focus of IBCT is on helping partners to better understand each other and to change patterns of interactions that lead to arguments. Treatment may also include helping couples develop proven communication and problem-solving skills for addressing problems that arise. Research shows that IBCT is effective in improving communication in relationships.

I want my partner and I to be more accepting of each other.

This is at the heart of IBCT. A key goal of the treatment is to help partners develop a better—and deeper—understanding of each other. This new understanding often leads to greater acceptance and kindness.

I want to understand and adapt to differences between me and my partner.

This is a very appropriate goal for IBCT. The premise of this treatment is that when partners come to understand and accept each other's differences, instead of constantly trying to change each other, relationships often improve. During the first part of treatment, you and your partner will focus on developing a deeper understanding of each other and your differences that will set a foundation for treatment.

I want to learn better ways to talk with my partner.

IBCT helps couples understand their patterns of interaction and to develop new ways of relating to each other, which often improves communication. During treatment, the therapist guides couples to speak "more from the heart" and to listen well to what each partner is communicating. Treatment sometimes also includes in-session practice exercises to help put new skills into action.

I want to learn how my partner and I can solve problems more effectively.

Many couples find the improved interactions and communication they experience in IBCT helps them to better solve problems together. In addition, some couples choose to also focus on specific training in effective problem-solving strategies in treatment.

I want my partner and I to stop being so critical of each other.

Many couples get stuck in a rut constantly nagging or blaming each other. IBCT takes a different approach to resolving problems or differences. Rather than trying to change each other, IBCT focuses on helping partners better understand and accept each other, which often leads to reduced criticism and greater connection.

I want to get along better with my partner.

This is an important treatment goal for most couples. IBCT works to improve core issues that drive couples apart using several proven steps and strategies. First, partners develop deeper understanding and acceptance of each other, which usually improves how they feel about and relate to one other. They also learn to focus more on the good in each other and the relationship, instead of focusing on the negative. Treatment may also include training in specific communication and other skills that for improving how partners relate to each other and address daily challenges.

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Rocky Mountain Regional VAMC (RMR VAMC)
1700 N Wheeling St, BLDG A2
Aurora, CO 80045


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500 Foothill DR
Salt Lake City, UT 84148
801-582-1565 x2821